How many kinds of Orgasms have you had?

Let’s talk about orgasms! Weeeeee!!!!! But before we get into the fun, let’s touch on the difference between achieving orgasms and having orgasmic pleasure and experiences. Achieving Orgasm: The idea and language around the phrase “achieving orgasm” sets many women up for missing out on orgasm altogether, and that leads to everyone involved feeling bad about it. This article is written with the female orgasm in mind, but a lot of the information can also be applied to men’s orgasmic experience. (P.S. Guys – there is a difference between your ejaculation and orgasm. I will write about that another time.) As I have talked about in other articles, orgasmic pleasure is the happy by-product of surrendering to pleasure. The more it becomes about the goal of orgasm as an outcome, the further away you get from truly orgasmic pleasure and bliss. SO STOP TRYING TO HAVE OR ACHIEVE ORGASMS!!! JUST SURRENDER TO RECEIVING PLEASURE AND ORGASMIC EXPERIENCES WILL FOLLOW. I promise. Okay, now let’s get into the fun stuff. Experiencing Orgasmic Pleasure: Orgasmic pleasure can happen in many different parts of your body once your erogenous zones are fully awake. To learn all about the erogenous zones, read my article “Erogenous Zones 101.” See, most people are so focused solely on orgasmic possibilities that stem from direct stimulus to the genital area. I say, as long as you believe in that one kind of orgasm, you are missing out on a world of epic orgasmic pleasure! I have been able to experience toe-gasms , knee-gasms and my favorite, armpit orgasm… I know crazy. Let me tell you a story:...

Erogenous Zones 101: The power of the magical, sexual buttons in the human body

What is an erogenous zone? These are spots in the body that have a cluster of nerve endings that can be the source of epic pleasure and bliss once they have been awakened and explored. I’m excited to be able to give you a list of where those buttons are and what you can do with them. But before we get into where the erogenous zones are in the body, you need two important pieces of information: Tickles: The body responds to tickling for two reasons. First, erogenous zones are dying to be let out. When the nerve endings are hypersensitive, they just need to be calmed so you can feel the pleasure underneath. To do this you have to touch with more firmness and slower movements, allowing the nervous system and nerve endings to relax and become calm. Then the pleasure can be explored. The second reason a person could experience tickles is that the body doesn’t want to be touched. There is a built in defense mechanism that is triggered when a person is not feeling safe or comfortable. It sends the nervous system into overdrive. If this is the case, take a deep breath and evaluate why you don’t want to be touched and decide if you can allow yourself to feel safe. If you find you are safe and comfortable, then the nervous system will calm down and you will be good to go. If not, then respect and listen to your body and ask the person to stop touching you until you can figure out what is wrong. This happens often with people who...

Removing the bum play taboo

It hard to imagine that just a few decades ago, the conversation of oral sex was unspeakable. Then, slowly over the years, it was threesomes. Now it seems that anal sex is the last taboo in sexual relationships, especially when it comes to heterosexual males. An article in Psychology Today   points to a 2008 study, which claims that around 15 percent heterosexual men said that they had received analingus while 24 percent had received anal fingering. But the data surrounding how many straight men have engaged in prostate play remains unclear. While heterosexual men might be more willing to engage in anal sex if they’re performing it on a woman, less are willing to engage in anal play on themselves. The reasons for doing so are obviously personal and vary from man to man, but one of the most common reasons stems from the stigma of anal sex being connected to homosexual relationships. It seems that some men need to be reminded that prostate and anal play does not dictate your sexuality in the slightest. And if you’re hesitant to try it because you believe it has any indication of your sexual orientation, then all you’re doing is denying yourself what could be some of the most powerful orgasms you can experience. On the other hand, for those that are avoiding anal play because they believe it will be painful, allow me to let you in on a little secret: It doesn’t have to be. In fact, it can be quite pleasurable. While there are plenty of nerve endings within the anus that can be enjoyable when stimulated,...

Say Yes to Pleasure

Good Day Sexy Reader Today I would like to explore pleasure. When I say the word pleasureeeeeee what is the first thing that pops into your head?   For me it is the tingling sensations in my body, mmmm delightful yumminess, tears of joy and movement from the sounds around me, the giddy glee of feeling the warm rain on my skin…. If I allow myself to receive all the pleasure possibilities that can happen in my body and senses then yes that pleasure can turn into sexual arousal orgasmic pleasure. Yeppie We can not truly experience epic orgasmic pleasure in life ,if your body and mind doesn’t allow you to surrender daily to your  bodies 5 senses Smell Sight Sound Taste Touch So I lovingly invited you to start to say YES!!! to all the pleasure sensation that can happen every day !! Every moment of the day our bodies are experiencing sensory input which can be enjoyable , unpleasant or we ignore them all together . Most of us ignore them all together because we are very disconnected from our bodies sensory input. This can be for sooo many reasons example:  illness, pain, trauma, not safe  or it has always been more important to be in your brain and not in your body … to name a few.   So lets work on awareness today. Here is a great exercise to start see how many sensory input pleasure moments you can have every day! Program your cell phone to go off every 2 hours When your alarm goes off I want you to take 30 seconds to tap...