5 Easy Ways to Stay Happy & Sexy this Holiday Season

Okay, the holiday season is here. For many of us, this time can be filled with stress, anxiety of family, money and many other expectations. First off, breathe deeply three times with me… Good. The best way I have found to make the holiday season enjoyable and sexy is to make time in the chaos for SEXY TIME!! With yourself and your partner. Often, we don’t think that sexual expression and pleasure exploration is important. So in times when life gets crazy busy, Sexy time is the first thing that gets thrown out the window. I know you can feel like there is no time to breathe, never mind time for sexual pleasure! Am I crazy?!?! NO! I am not crazy! Here are the benefits of making time for 5 to 30 minutes of sexy time every day: When you have orgasmic release it releases happy bio-chemicals into your mind and body like endorphins and dopamine to name a few. This will help you feel happy and relaxed, and improve your mood. It helps you continue to love and like your partner during and  after the holiday craziness is over. It supports the feeling that you are in this together as a team. It will increase your ability to enjoy the whole holiday season because you will be more connected to your body. When you are more body aware, you become more mindful and present in your life. How to add a little naughty to this holiday season? Buy your partner a couple of naughty, sexy and sexual exploration gifts at the beginning of December and give one naughty...

5 reasons every woman needs a pair of Vibrating Panties!

One of the many great parts of my job as a Sexual Wellness Coach is that I get to test products for the Love Shop, and they have asked me to test vibrating panties. Wooohooo! I love my job! Now anyone who knows me well knows I never wear panties. There is now an exception to my rule. Vibrating Panties make life exciting!!! Here are some of the ways that my already very pleasure-filled life is now even better: Driving – Important safety tip: make sure you don’t close your eyes while you orgasm. If your orgasms are super intense and your body spasms, then don’t use them while driving. Just make sure the panties are on a low speed so they can send pleasure that can make driving in rush hour enjoyable not dangerous. I was in the parking lot at Value Village and I had a 35 minute drive ahead of me, so I thought “let’s try out my new vibrating panties from the love shop.” I put them on in the parking lot and turned them on to make sure it wouldn’t be too intense and OMG it was just right. I had about 20 mini-orgasms while driving. Best drive ever. Paperwork – I usually hate it! Not anymore, thank you vibrating panties. Computer/Administration work- Desk work has become a wonderful thing in my life because of the Vibrating Panties. Giving oral sex – I have always loved giving an epic blow job, but now because I am having little orgasms from the VP ( Vibrating Panties) I enjoy it even more. Not to mention my...

The power of NO can give us the permission to say YES!

The power of NO can give us the permission to say YES! While I was teaching two amazing workshops at the lifestyle swingers event “Valentines in Niagara” I learned something so valuable, I was moved to make a little addition to my workshops going forward. When I set up a safe and non-judgmental space at the beginning of each of my workshops I always have participants make three permission and power statements. For example: “I give you permission to be horny!” or “This is a safe and non-judgmental space!” But during the Niagara workshops, I was inspired to include a statement that would help people practice saying “No thank you.” Here is how the exercise works: One person asks “May I touch you?“ The other responds with “No Thank you.” When I first saw this, it was amazing to watch everyone’s body language and how hard and uncomfortable it was for some of them to hear “No,” and how challenging it was for some to say “No thank you” with a loving tone. So if people are reacting that strongly to a fake experience, think how people may be feeling in real situations. If we don’t feel we can or should have the right to say “No thank you” how can we feel safe to express our desires? When you are denied your personal or physical truth, which may be “No thank you,” then it is very challenging to feel safe enough to speak your truth. So let’s explore the word “NO.” Why do we have hard time saying it and even harder time hearing it? When we are...

7 secrets to giving the ultimate B.J.

After years of working with men I am happy to share my insights on what men want and desire when it comes to receiving mind blowing oral sex. Here are the 7 Secrets to giving the ultimate “hummer”: 1. Lube it up. Keep it wet and slippery. Most guys don’t find friction burn on their penis to be a turn on. What kind of lube you might ask? Your saliva is the best but you can also use flavoured lubes or oils. One of my favourite oils is coconut oil which is also vagina friendly. Just remember if you are using flavour lubes or oils then he should wash his penis before you have intercourse because sugars and other chemicals are not vagina friendly.  Just because the bottle says intercourse safe that does not mean that it is. Anything with sugars or Glycerine and some of the other ingredients in flavoured lubes can cause a yeast infection… It is better to be save then sorry later. The vagina has a very delicate eco system. Yeast infections are not sexy! 2. Pressure. Every man likes a different level of intensity on their penis. But a lot of men have told me that woman don’t usually do enough. So when you have his penis in your mouth and are sucking ask him if he would like more or less suction. That will be your base line for pressure. It is important to use suction when his penis is in your mouth otherwise “it just feels like poking a warm bucket of water.” Don’t forget about your hands. They always need to...

How hiring a house keeper can save your marriage/relationship!

Once upon a time I was incredibly pissed off all the time because my husband and I used to fight regularly over… household chores. No matter how many charts or reward programs I created nothing seemed to make it better. Then one magical moment I decided I was going to hire someone to come clean my house… and *choirs singing*… the clouds parted and the sun came out and that piece of my marriage was saved. It has been amazing. For a small fee, the piece of mind, the reduced stress and the pure delight of coming home every two weeks to a sparkling clean house has been one of the best choices I have ever made. Now we have more time for other things and of course a lot more sexy time. And we have lived happily ever after with the help the Prestige Cleaning Services (www.prestigecleaningservices.ca) The End Now I want you to think about:  How many fight have you had in your relationship over household chores?  How many times have you been annoyed because of housework?  How often are you downright pissed off because of the chores not being done?  How often have you not wanted to have sex either because you have chores to do or because you felt nagged to do them? Imagine if all of that was swept away. You would have free time for yourself and more desire for sexy time. One less thing for you both to fight about and so much more closeness which can lead to more sex!! It is important not to feel like house cleaning is only...