5 reasons every woman needs a pair of Vibrating Panties!

One of the many great parts of my job as a Sexual Wellness Coach is that I get to test products for the Love Shop, and they have asked me to test vibrating panties. Wooohooo! I love my job! Now anyone who knows me well knows I never wear panties. There is now an exception to my rule. Vibrating Panties make life exciting!!! Here are some of the ways that my already very pleasure-filled life is now even better: Driving – Important safety tip: make sure you don’t close your eyes while you orgasm. If your orgasms are super intense and your body spasms, then don’t use them while driving. Just make sure the panties are on a low speed so they can send pleasure that can make driving in rush hour enjoyable not dangerous. I was in the parking lot at Value Village and I had a 35 minute drive ahead of me, so I thought “let’s try out my new vibrating panties from the love shop.” I put them on in the parking lot and turned them on to make sure it wouldn’t be too intense and OMG it was just right. I had about 20 mini-orgasms while driving. Best drive ever. Paperwork – I usually hate it! Not anymore, thank you vibrating panties. Computer/Administration work- Desk work has become a wonderful thing in my life because of the Vibrating Panties. Giving oral sex – I have always loved giving an epic blow job, but now because I am having little orgasms from the VP ( Vibrating Panties) I enjoy it even more. Not to mention my...

The power of NO can give us the permission to say YES!

The power of NO can give us the permission to say YES! While I was teaching two amazing workshops at the lifestyle swingers event “Valentines in Niagara” I learned something so valuable, I was moved to make a little addition to my workshops going forward. When I set up a safe and non-judgmental space at the beginning of each of my workshops I always have participants make three permission and power statements. For example: “I give you permission to be horny!” or “This is a safe and non-judgmental space!” But during the Niagara workshops, I was inspired to include a statement that would help people practice saying “No thank you.” Here is how the exercise works: One person asks “May I touch you?“ The other responds with “No Thank you.” When I first saw this, it was amazing to watch everyone’s body language and how hard and uncomfortable it was for some of them to hear “No,” and how challenging it was for some to say “No thank you” with a loving tone. So if people are reacting that strongly to a fake experience, think how people may be feeling in real situations. If we don’t feel we can or should have the right to say “No thank you” how can we feel safe to express our desires? When you are denied your personal or physical truth, which may be “No thank you,” then it is very challenging to feel safe enough to speak your truth. So let’s explore the word “NO.” Why do we have hard time saying it and even harder time hearing it? When we are...

Erogenous Zones 101: The power of the magical, sexual buttons in the human body

What is an erogenous zone? These are spots in the body that have a cluster of nerve endings that can be the source of epic pleasure and bliss once they have been awakened and explored. I’m excited to be able to give you a list of where those buttons are and what you can do with them. But before we get into where the erogenous zones are in the body, you need two important pieces of information: Tickles: The body responds to tickling for two reasons. First, erogenous zones are dying to be let out. When the nerve endings are hypersensitive, they just need to be calmed so you can feel the pleasure underneath. To do this you have to touch with more firmness and slower movements, allowing the nervous system and nerve endings to relax and become calm. Then the pleasure can be explored. The second reason a person could experience tickles is that the body doesn’t want to be touched. There is a built in defense mechanism that is triggered when a person is not feeling safe or comfortable. It sends the nervous system into overdrive. If this is the case, take a deep breath and evaluate why you don’t want to be touched and decide if you can allow yourself to feel safe. If you find you are safe and comfortable, then the nervous system will calm down and you will be good to go. If not, then respect and listen to your body and ask the person to stop touching you until you can figure out what is wrong. This happens often with people who...

9 benefits to being a nudist/ naturalist! Have you Frolic naked lately? Why not?

Once upon a time there was girl named Gaia. She always felt like there was something wrong with her. Gaia never wanted to wear clothes. She could not understand why the only time you were allowed to be naked was when you had a bath. But, Gaia was a rebel and she loved to break the rules. As soon as she figured out how to get out of her sleepers, she decided sleep naked. She would even run through the house naked, laughing and giggling, while her mother had company. As she grew into a teenager, her life goal became to be naked even when she shouldn’t be, all without getting caught. Even in high school she knew that there was something wrong in society. Gaia wrote an essay on the benefits of being naked that showed wisdom beyond her years. One day, when Gaia was in her 30’s, one of her friends said, “Come to the nudist resort, you will love it!” Gaia said, “Where is the fun if I’m allowed to be naked?!” After some convicting, Gaia went. The moment she took off all her clothes she felt a freedom like no other. She had found her people and they were just like her!!! So, when it was warm enough, Gaia spent every moment she could at The Ponderosa Nudist Resort The END Spending the last three years at a nudist resort helped me to notice the many benefits of fully embracing my nudist self: Save money on clothes! My skin—and my entire body—are so happy to be able to breathe My sensory pleasure has increased tenfold....

How hiring a house keeper can save your marriage/relationship!

Once upon a time I was incredibly pissed off all the time because my husband and I used to fight regularly over… household chores. No matter how many charts or reward programs I created nothing seemed to make it better. Then one magical moment I decided I was going to hire someone to come clean my house… and *choirs singing*… the clouds parted and the sun came out and that piece of my marriage was saved. It has been amazing. For a small fee, the piece of mind, the reduced stress and the pure delight of coming home every two weeks to a sparkling clean house has been one of the best choices I have ever made. Now we have more time for other things and of course a lot more sexy time. And we have lived happily ever after with the help the Prestige Cleaning Services (www.prestigecleaningservices.ca) The End Now I want you to think about:  How many fight have you had in your relationship over household chores?  How many times have you been annoyed because of housework?  How often are you downright pissed off because of the chores not being done?  How often have you not wanted to have sex either because you have chores to do or because you felt nagged to do them? Imagine if all of that was swept away. You would have free time for yourself and more desire for sexy time. One less thing for you both to fight about and so much more closeness which can lead to more sex!! It is important not to feel like house cleaning is only...

Are you afraid to be yourself?

Stop being afraid to be yourself!! You are amazing!! I want to share with you a wonderful lesson I recently learned on how important it is to be your authentic self in all areas of life, including business. When I was given permission to be myself in business it turns out that people naturally want to connect with me and learn who I am and why I am passionate about life. Who knew?!? People seem to be genuinely interested in learning about my transformation and journey which led to my career as a sexual wellness coach. I was participating in a webinar with the amazing business coach Bill Baren. He was explaining studies on how the brain of a listener will sync up with the brain of the speaker when the conversation is presented in the form of a story. The listener becomes more connected and receptive to learning the new information. And the best stories are about your own life and transformation. I have always taught my clients to do this in their personal lives by risking, sharing and letting their gifts shine. I also feel this is something I do very well in my own personal life. However, I had been taught that in the business world I am not supposed to be so bold and free and that it is necessary to tone down who I am because others might be afraid or uncomfortable. It turns out that by doing so I am not giving others around me the opportunity to heal or grow and I am denying them permission to be brave and let their...