5 reasons every woman needs a pair of Vibrating Panties!

One of the many great parts of my job as a Sexual Wellness Coach is that I get to test products for the Love Shop, and they have asked me to test vibrating panties. Wooohooo! I love my job! Now anyone who knows me well knows I never wear panties. There is now an exception to my rule. Vibrating Panties make life exciting!!! Here are some of the ways that my already very pleasure-filled life is now even better: Driving – Important safety tip: make sure you don’t close your eyes while you orgasm. If your orgasms are super intense and your body spasms, then don’t use them while driving. Just make sure the panties are on a low speed so they can send pleasure that can make driving in rush hour enjoyable not dangerous. I was in the parking lot at Value Village and I had a 35 minute drive ahead of me, so I thought “let’s try out my new vibrating panties from the love shop.” I put them on in the parking lot and turned them on to make sure it wouldn’t be too intense and OMG it was just right. I had about 20 mini-orgasms while driving. Best drive ever. Paperwork – I usually hate it! Not anymore, thank you vibrating panties. Computer/Administration work- Desk work has become a wonderful thing in my life because of the Vibrating Panties. Giving oral sex – I have always loved giving an epic blow job, but now because I am having little orgasms from the VP ( Vibrating Panties) I enjoy it even more. Not to mention my...

Mi-Vibe Vortec product review

Toy review: mi-vibe vortec endless pleasures MIV009005 I give this product 7.5 out of 10. It has great power with 10 different rhythms and speeds for some teasing that leads to pleasing. It is a sexy green colour with delightful swirl for more pleasure. Due to it waterproof feature you can play with in the shower and it is female ejaculation friendly. Over all it is a good basic vibrator for the price point. Staying excited !!! Gaia Shawna Morrissette p.s. Always remember if you need help,education and  support I am always available for...

How many kinds of Orgasms have you had?

Let’s talk about orgasms! Weeeeee!!!!! But before we get into the fun, let’s touch on the difference between achieving orgasms and having orgasmic pleasure and experiences. Achieving Orgasm: The idea and language around the phrase “achieving orgasm” sets many women up for missing out on orgasm altogether, and that leads to everyone involved feeling bad about it. This article is written with the female orgasm in mind, but a lot of the information can also be applied to men’s orgasmic experience. (P.S. Guys – there is a difference between your ejaculation and orgasm. I will write about that another time.) As I have talked about in other articles, orgasmic pleasure is the happy by-product of surrendering to pleasure. The more it becomes about the goal of orgasm as an outcome, the further away you get from truly orgasmic pleasure and bliss. SO STOP TRYING TO HAVE OR ACHIEVE ORGASMS!!! JUST SURRENDER TO RECEIVING PLEASURE AND ORGASMIC EXPERIENCES WILL FOLLOW. I promise. Okay, now let’s get into the fun stuff. Experiencing Orgasmic Pleasure: Orgasmic pleasure can happen in many different parts of your body once your erogenous zones are fully awake. To learn all about the erogenous zones, read my article “Erogenous Zones 101.” See, most people are so focused solely on orgasmic possibilities that stem from direct stimulus to the genital area. I say, as long as you believe in that one kind of orgasm, you are missing out on a world of epic orgasmic pleasure! I have been able to experience toe-gasms , knee-gasms and my favorite, armpit orgasm… I know crazy. Let me tell you a story:...

The power of NO can give us the permission to say YES!

The power of NO can give us the permission to say YES! While I was teaching two amazing workshops at the lifestyle swingers event “Valentines in Niagara” I learned something so valuable, I was moved to make a little addition to my workshops going forward. When I set up a safe and non-judgmental space at the beginning of each of my workshops I always have participants make three permission and power statements. For example: “I give you permission to be horny!” or “This is a safe and non-judgmental space!” But during the Niagara workshops, I was inspired to include a statement that would help people practice saying “No thank you.” Here is how the exercise works: One person asks “May I touch you?“ The other responds with “No Thank you.” When I first saw this, it was amazing to watch everyone’s body language and how hard and uncomfortable it was for some of them to hear “No,” and how challenging it was for some to say “No thank you” with a loving tone. So if people are reacting that strongly to a fake experience, think how people may be feeling in real situations. If we don’t feel we can or should have the right to say “No thank you” how can we feel safe to express our desires? When you are denied your personal or physical truth, which may be “No thank you,” then it is very challenging to feel safe enough to speak your truth. So let’s explore the word “NO.” Why do we have hard time saying it and even harder time hearing it? When we are...

Porn: is it good or bad for you?

In my personal and professional experience porn can be helpful and beneficial to supporting healthy sexuality if used correctly. But if misused, it can become very personally harmful and destroy relationships. Here are some of the wrong ways to use porn: Let porn become an addiction. Use porn as an instructional, sex education tool. Allow it to distort your vision of what men and women’s bodies and genitals can look like, creating both false, unattainable physical attraction to others’ bodies, or self-hatred of your own. Become disrespectful toward your lover. There is a difference between BDSM and kinky sexual play. Kinky play is always SAFE, SANE, and CONSENSUAL. Healthy pain, humiliation, and power exchange is always done from a place of great respect and love. Lie or feel guilty, creating shame and distrust in a relationship. Okay, so those are some of the not-good things about porn, let’s get to the good stuff. While I was in Los Angeles, Calif., I attended a weekend course called “Sexual Attitudes Reassessment” (SAR). We watched many different types of porn and sexual activities to get an idea of what is out there. As you can image I didn’t see much of anything I hadn’t seen before due to my level of personal and professional exploration, but I did see two new things that reaffirmed my own sexual beliefs and values. I often tell my clients to go watch or read porn to help create a spank bank or roller deck of fantasies and desires. I have found if we do not have both a healthy sexual fantasy life and sexual relationship with...

Erogenous Zones 101: The power of the magical, sexual buttons in the human body

What is an erogenous zone? These are spots in the body that have a cluster of nerve endings that can be the source of epic pleasure and bliss once they have been awakened and explored. I’m excited to be able to give you a list of where those buttons are and what you can do with them. But before we get into where the erogenous zones are in the body, you need two important pieces of information: Tickles: The body responds to tickling for two reasons. First, erogenous zones are dying to be let out. When the nerve endings are hypersensitive, they just need to be calmed so you can feel the pleasure underneath. To do this you have to touch with more firmness and slower movements, allowing the nervous system and nerve endings to relax and become calm. Then the pleasure can be explored. The second reason a person could experience tickles is that the body doesn’t want to be touched. There is a built in defense mechanism that is triggered when a person is not feeling safe or comfortable. It sends the nervous system into overdrive. If this is the case, take a deep breath and evaluate why you don’t want to be touched and decide if you can allow yourself to feel safe. If you find you are safe and comfortable, then the nervous system will calm down and you will be good to go. If not, then respect and listen to your body and ask the person to stop touching you until you can figure out what is wrong. This happens often with people who...