Why you might be having no sex?

So as a sexual wellness coach, I have many couples come see me because they are unhappy or unsatisfied in their sexual relationship with one another.  I want to share a story about one couple I worked with. The overall problem was they were not have good or often sex. Here is what we figured out she hate his facial hair it hurt her skin when he kissed her or went to lick her honey pot so she would push him away every time he would make a move. He was always feeling rejected and hurt that she didn’t want him. I asked her why she never told him . she said I did . I ask how ? She saids ” I think you are really sexy when you shave”. When he shaved I would kiss him and have sex with him. I turn to him and say “so what do you think?”  He says I had no idea at all that you felt that or needed that  from me , if that is all it will take  for me to have great sex I will shave no problem.” After that session they starting having sex and often and still are. Sometimes all it takes is clear communication. Remember we usually think we are being clear but until you ask what did you think I said and they reply so you know you are on the same page it always just assumptions. I would love to hear your thoughts or any your experiences with miscommunication. Also if you want to find out how to stop this from happen...

The power of NO can give us the permission to say YES!

The power of NO can give us the permission to say YES! While I was teaching two amazing workshops at the lifestyle swingers event “Valentines in Niagara” I learned something so valuable, I was moved to make a little addition to my workshops going forward. When I set up a safe and non-judgmental space at the beginning of each of my workshops I always have participants make three permission and power statements. For example: “I give you permission to be horny!” or “This is a safe and non-judgmental space!” But during the Niagara workshops, I was inspired to include a statement that would help people practice saying “No thank you.” Here is how the exercise works: One person asks “May I touch you?“ The other responds with “No Thank you.” When I first saw this, it was amazing to watch everyone’s body language and how hard and uncomfortable it was for some of them to hear “No,” and how challenging it was for some to say “No thank you” with a loving tone. So if people are reacting that strongly to a fake experience, think how people may be feeling in real situations. If we don’t feel we can or should have the right to say “No thank you” how can we feel safe to express our desires? When you are denied your personal or physical truth, which may be “No thank you,” then it is very challenging to feel safe enough to speak your truth. So let’s explore the word “NO.” Why do we have hard time saying it and even harder time hearing it? When we are...