BDSM: Be in control by letting go of control

BDSM: Be in control by letting go of control Let me tell you a story… Once upon a time there was an unhappy control freak named Gaia. She needed to always be in charge and in CONTROL of EVERYTHING and EVERYONE!!! The world saw me, Gaia, as a very confident strong and powerful leader though deep inside I was a fucl<ing mess! I was always stressed out and having major healthy issues, not sleeping and the worst part was that the people closest to me did not always like spending time with me! My ex husband, who became an ex for other reasons (lol), one day pointed out to me that the more not safe and losing control the more I needed to turn into a control freak. I would go from happy and Zen to an angry, stressed out, crazy bitch in seconds. I had no idea how to feel safe without being a control freak and my search for a solution lead me down the rabbit hole (so to speak!) to exploring BDSM submission with my partner. We both noticed that when he dominated me in the bedroom, I would submit my everything in those moments… things changed; I felt safe, my brain became quiet and suddenly the world was amazing space! I didn’t have to think, or be in fear and there was only the stillness of orgasmic inner peace… I started to notice it affecting all areas of my life and it became easier to be that just go with flow girl improved. Of course the happy byproduct was that people that where closest to...

50 Shades of Grey: Did it turn you on?

Fifty Shades of Grey is really erotic porn for women, and there is nothing wrong with that. Over the past three years, I have been teaching a workshop called “50 Shades of Play,” and I have spoken with the media about the books and the movie, so I feel like I have a very good handle on this topic. First off, I need to address a common misconception:50 Shades of Grey is not true or healthy representation of BDSM! There are some hot, kinky sexy scenes that may or may not have made you breath rapidly and your vagina pulse, but I repeat, it is NOT BDSM. This is not an article about all the ways that 50 Shades doesn’t support healthy relationships, or how it doesn’t represent a true BDSM relationship or lifestyle. The book and movie was just another romantic novel and Hollywood love story with some extra spicy sex and sexual tension in it. I will be writing another article talking about how romantic novels, Hollywood love stories and fairy tales have confused and distorted a lot of women’s ideas of love, sex and relationships, but that is for another time. I totally support BDSM as a healthy sexual lifestyle and form of expression. So if you think you might want to start to explore kinky sex or BDSM then please do your research and don’t look at the books or movies as your manual. Without research and proper education exploring into the areas of kink and BDSM can be dangerous for your physical, mental, and relationship well-being. If you are interested in starting your educational...