Okay ladies, are you ready to discover how to become multi-orgasmic? Any woman can learn to experience multiple orgasms with training, practice, and of course, surrendering to pleasure and her own body.
First of all, in order for a woman to become multi-orgasmic, she must feel comfortable having an orgasm. If, as a woman, you are not there yet, don’t worry! Please go read my article “Top 3 Reasons why some women don’t have orgasms! How that can change!” There are some great tips and tricks to beginning your orgasmic pleasure. As women, once we learn how to be multi-orgasmic then there is no limit on the types (stay tuned for that article) or amount of orgasms our body is capable of expressing.
Women and the lovers who want to support multi-orgasmic bliss…let’s get started!
1. Oversensitivity: For many women, once they have had a clitoris orgasm their clit, vagina and sometimes their whole body can be soooo super sensitive that if you continue to touch her, she might want to punch you in the head…not sexy and not a great way to end the sexual experience with non-consensual violence. Here is a little trick my Tantra teachers taught me: Don’t break contact with the clit after orgasm. Don’t keep moving, or applying pressure but instead be very, very still while maintaining contact with her clit. It doesn’t matter if you are using your tongue, finger, hand, toy, penis, or something else, stay still for 10-20 seconds giving the nervous system and nerve ends time to relax and not be in hypersensitive mode. After you wait 10-20 seconds, very slowly and gently try to move. If she still wants to kick you, stop and be still for another 10-20 seconds and then try again. Once her nerve endings have calmed down enough that she can start to receive touch without pain or major discomfort, then start to build her arousal level again and watch her go… and goooooo and goooooooooooo.
2. Surrender: This is the hardest part, but you have to let go of control of your body, mind and sometimes spirit. It is all about understanding that it is safe to let go! Realize that you need to trust and surrender to your partner’s touch and fully allow yourself and your body to receive pleasure from your partner. It is a matter of surrendering to pleasure and fully allowing your body to express that through sounds, movements, and words. This also means trusting that your partner is not passing judgement on what your face and body might look like or the primal sounds that will come from you. Orgasm is NOT LADY LIKE!! It is primal, and raw, intense, and fuckin’ awesome!!! Lovers note: It is important to encourage your lover to let go!! Tell her how sexy you find it when she lets out her wild primal orgasmic beast! Tell her it is okay for her to scream, bite, writhe, and claw. The more you encourage her, the safer she will feel expressing her multi-orgasmic bliss with you!
3. Orgasm Boot Camp: It is important to train your mind, body and spirit to become multi- orgasmic. Just like you wouldn’t sign up for a marathon without training first, you can’t expect to be able to stay in the multi-orgasmic state for long periods of time without training either. I have been training for 25 years, so I can stay in that multi-orgasmic state for 3-5 hours having 100s of orgasms, so it is possible! You want to start small. If you’ve never had more than one orgasm in a sexual experience, first work up to two or three. I have found that once your body and mind are capable of having four orgasms in one sexual session, then it’s really just a matter of training your body and your lover’s endurance. It’s a great full body workout!! The best way to start your training is alone while you are masturbating. Use what you learned in tip 1 (oversensitivity), and keep repeating it, increasing your self-love each time you self- pleasure. Also, try using different strokes, pressures, toys, and positions. This will expand your orgasmic patterning and make it easier for you to experience orgasmic pleasure in many different ways. While you are exploring by yourself, this is a fabulous time to practice surrendering in a safe environment. Once you feel comfortable, ask your lover to help. Tell him or her about the “staying still” technique and let the exploration and bonding begin.
It is important to understand that there are many types of orgasms and many are intense, so you really just want to allow your body to express the waves of pleasure. Don’t start to focus on how many orgasms you are having or counting your lover’s orgasms. The minute that it becomes a goal or chore you will stop the orgasmic pleasure from happening. Let me know if you have any questions or need any support. I am always here for you, for your healing, awakening, education and exploration!
Until next time keep screaming and writhing!!